Being honest and open can be borderline impossible sometimes. Going along with my last post, society has trained us to believe that men shouldn’t cry, women shouldn’t speak their mind, and neither gender should have emotions or feelings. But, according to Brené Brown, a “shame” researcher and author of Daring Greatly, we’ve got this whole “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy all wrong. If you want to have strong relationships, happy employees/employers, and an overall fulfilling life, the key is vulnerability. Here’s why:
1. Builds trust
Would you rather have a boss that shuts his office door every morning and terrifies the workplace? Or would you rather report to someone that you can come to with questions like “I really don’t understand this. Can you help me?” When you establish an open line of communication with your employees, you won’t spend your nights wondering if tasks are being finished on time. You’ll know they are because your team doesn’t feel like they are bothering you every time they want to discuss a project.
2. Encourages accountability
Can you imagine if everyone owned up to their mistakes and apologized for their wrongdoings all the time? How awesome would the world be?! By admitting you messed up, you and the person involved can forgive and move on. If you continue to play the blame game, I promise you that people will catch on and the respect others have for you will perish.
3. Instills good morals and values in children
This is for all the parents out there. When you hold yourself responsible for your actions, your kids will notice and want to act accordingly. Picture this: you are on the phone with your best friend and start talking mad sh*t about another woman at work. When you hang up, your child looks at you and says “Mom, I thought we weren’t supposed to talk bad about other people?” What would you do? Brush it off and say “well she’s a bitch, dear.” Or would you take the high road, sit your little one down, and explain that you made a mistake. Acting like a “holier than thou” parent will only put up walls between the two of you so fess up and set a good example.
4. Better communication
Showing your vulnerable side opens up the floor for meaningful, high impact conversations. I’m not saying you should over share or talk someone’s ear off. But by sharing your story, you come off as relatable and people will be more willing to open up and create a long-lasting relationship. You don’t want to talk about the weather for 2 hours do you?
If you want to learn more about the magic of vulnerability, I encourage you to pick up a copy of Daring Greatly. Brené Brown has been studying this subject for years and her work has impacted millions of people across the globe. You can also check out her Ted Talk here.