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Catching Criticism: The Life of a Creative

Catching Criticism: The Life Of A Creative

Last week, I ran into a friend that brought up my writing… in a negative way. We had fallen out of touch and when the subject came to up in conversation, she explained that she didn’t even know me anymore. She went on to claim that nothing I have been writing sounds like it came from me and that she has discussed it with my friends behind my back.

As you can imagine, I was a little speechless… I mean, I knew that there would be gossip floating around once I began this journey but hearing it from one of my “best friends” really cut me to the core.

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What I Learned From Watching 13 Reasons Why

What I Learned From 13 Reasons Why

High school can be a real bitch. Even though there are hundreds of people around you, you’ve never felt so alone. Everything matters. The length of your skirt, what kind of shoes you’re wearing, how you walk, talk, and laugh. It’s insane. One wrong move and you’re as good as dead.

Watching 13 Reasons Why brought back some scary memories. Guys that were a year older than me telling me to kill myself on Facebook, crying in my Spanish teacher’s classroom before school, telling my therapist I couldn’t live like this anymore… I look back on my younger self and my heart sinks. What if I was pushed to the edge? What would’ve been the “last straw”?

If you knew me back then you wouldn’t have recognized the pain I was in. I always had a smile on my face and a joke in my mouth. I acted like the rumors didn’t bother me but on the inside I was screaming for help.

I don’t tell you this to pity me. I tell you this as a warning. It’s so important to keep your eyes open and to pay attention. Don’t brush off bullying like it’s no big deal. It’s a big fucking deal.

I was on the other side too, ya know… I was the bully in some circumstances and I try to make up for it every day. I pushed people around and made them feel insecure about themselves. I mean, I couldn’t be the only miserable one right? I want to believe I’m a better person these days. I smile at strangers, I give to charities, I have friends from all different backgrounds. But I still make mistakes. I talk shit, I judge others, and I hold grudges but watching 13 Reasons Why brought all of this to light.

We’re not perfect but this isn’t an excuse to have a mean-spirited soul. You never know what someone is going through. You never know how much a simple “hello” could mean to a random person. You’re no better than anyone else and no one is better than you. God made us EQUALLY in his image. You don’t get a gold star because you drive a Ferrari and have perfectly straight teeth. You’re just like everyone else.

So follow the golden rule and be the reason why someone chooses to live today. You have NO IDEA what your kindness could mean to the world in this moment.

 

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How To Kick Your Bad Habits To The Curb

How To Kick Your Bad Habits To The Curb

Why do we keep falling into the same bad habits?

We go after the “bad boy”, we spend a fortune on clothes we don’t need, we go out and get hammered every weekend. Even though we know it’s wrong, it’s as if we find comfort in the constant routine.

It’s true, some of us don’t know any better. We grew up watching these behaviors and normalizing them in our heads. But for the majority of us, we know what we’re doing is wrong yet we never make a change.

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Keep Your Friends Close And Your Insecurities Closer

How To Stop Being So Insecure

This is a topic that makes most people uncomfortable. Hell, I’m fidgeting just writing about it. But, assuming that you’re also human, this isΒ something that all millennials struggle with. Insecurities are a part of us. They’re like that one family friend that you’re forced to hang out withΒ even though they drive you absolutely insane.

It’s taken me years to accept the things I can’t change about myself. Like the fact that my nose is too big, my face breaks out more than occasionally, and my hair is too thin for a fishtail braid.Β Do I like these attributes? Definitely not. But they don’t rule my life anymore.

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4 Ways Vulnerability Improves Your Life

4 Ways Vulnerability Improves Your Life

Being honest and open can be borderline impossible sometimes. Going along with my last post, society has trained us to believe that men shouldn’t cry, women shouldn’t speak their mind, and neither gender should have emotions or feelings. But, according to BrenΓ© Brown, a “shame” researcher and author of Daring Greatly, we’ve got this whole “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy all wrong. If you want to have strong relationships, happy employees/employers, and an overall fulfilling life, the key is vulnerability. Here’s why:

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