You know that queazy feeling you get in your stomach and muscles right before a big test or job interview? Well, you’re not alone.
For so long, I always thought influential people lived without fear. They took risks, their confidence was undeniable, and they did whatever the hell they wanted. So, in my mind, the only explanation for their actions was fearlessness. Boy, was I wrong.
No one is fearless. And if someone tells you they are, it’s a lie.
Yes, even Oprah, Leonardo Dicaprio, and Deepak Chopra are fearful. The difference between them and you is that they EMBRACE THE FEAR. It ignites their passion and pushes them to take action.
Don’t try to avoid fear. It’s what helps you grow and, according to Tony Robbins, “if you’re not growing, you’re dying.” Instead, use your twenties to walk hand-in-hand with fear. Form a relationship with fear because once you start doing things that you’re afraid to do, life gets MUCH more exciting.
I was always terrified of flying. I would literally hyperventilate every time I got on a plane and, let me tell you, it was EMBARRASSING. Now, I stay calm and actually sleep through most flights. All because I embraced the fear… and sometimes I embrace Xanax.
Before you do something that scares you, ask yourself what’s the WORST that could happen. Someone says no? You fall down? You die? Ok, then what?
Another tip: PRACTICE. The more you do something, the less intimidating it is. This really helped with my flying phobia. Now I fly at least twice a year and every time it gets better and better.
Trust me, living your life with regret is A LOT scarier than actually taking risks in your twenties. Now is the perfect time to experiment and take a leap of faith, especially if you haven’t started building a family yet.
So, I challenge you all to try something new and a little bit scary. This doesn’t mean you have to jump out of a plane. If you’re really set in your ways, take baby steps. Try a new coffee drink, wear a brighter color shirt, or strike up a conversation with a stranger. Find something that is outside your comfort zone and go for it. I believe in you.