Have you ever caught yourself in a lie? You don’t know why those words are coming out of your mouth but you can’t help but speak them. They’re like word vomit, all chunky and sour-tasting. Ok, that was gross, but true and you know it.
Lately, I’ve been lying A LOT. Not to other people, but to myself. I say things like “I don’t need anyone, I can do this all by myself. Boss bitches like me don’t need help.” But the sad truth is, I do need help. I need help with my business, I need friends by my side, and I need family supporting my dreams.
I’m starting to realize how tough it is being an extroverted entrepreneur. You spend long days at home glued to your computer without anyone (but your dog) to talk to. When I worked in an office and needed a break, I would just stand up, throw a grape at Katie’s head or make fun of Carly’s bird obsession, and then get back to work.
Now when I need a break, I throw Delia a tennis ball and beg her to tell me about her dreams. I swear to God I do this. I also ask her how her day was every time I pick her up from doggy daycare. But that is another issue entirely.
It’s taken me a while to realize just how much I crave human connection. Of course, I get in moods where I want my alone time but, for the most part, I need company. This light bulb moment has led me to my love of networking and social media.
I have always argued against technology, aggressively condemning the text message for the death of millennial communication. I mean, I’ve basically pulled a Westboro Baptist Church on technology’s ass with picket signs and all. “Technology Murders Babies”
But recently, I’ve been enlightened by the fact that social media brings people together who would never have met otherwise. In the past month, I have connected with bloggers all over the United States who have similar interests and passions.
The secret though is getting out of Facebook messenger and onto conference calls (Zoom is my favorite. Skype blows.) Even if you can’t meet face to face, video chatting is just as effective. And the best part is, digital networking is actually helping with my public speaking skills and perfecting my elevator pitch. It’s allowing me to get out of my shell and out into the world.
If you’re in my same position, check out Facebook groups that resonate with your profession. Personally, I’ve joined groups such as Online Business BFFs and The Blogging Squad but there are literally thousands of groups for any interest. Page admins will post questions that turn into message boards for likeminded millennials. It’s an amazing way to connect!
I am constantly amazed by the wonders of technology and social media. Although I don’t support hiding behind a computer screen to avoid the real world, I am beginning to warm up to the fact that not every interaction needs to be in person. As millennials, we haven’t yet lost our desire to converse, we’ve merely tweaked our preferred method of communication.
So, as I sit unaccompanied in this coffee shop, it’s good to know that I’m not alone in this journey. There are plenty of other solopreneurs that fight the good fight day in and day out. It’s a thriving community that I am proud to be apart of. Social media is a hell of a tool.