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How To Make Friends In A New City

How To Make Friends In A New CIty

Almost 2 years ago, I moved to Orange County, California. I packed up my car and drove 31 hours to a city where I knew NO ONE. Luckily, I was blessed with an extroverted personality and a willingness to “put myself out there.” But I realize that this might not be the case for everyone.

If you want to make the big jump to a brand new location, consider the following tips:

1. Talk to strangers
You never know what connections you will make when you talk to random people. I have met some of the most amazing people by just picking up a conversation in a coffee shop or out on the beach.

2. Use dating apps
Dude, swallow your pride and download Bumble or Tinder (only if you’re single of course). You need to face the fact that online dating is real and who knows? Maybe you’ll find your future husband… I also have friends who have used Bumble BFF and love it! I haven’t used it personally but maybe give it a try!

3. Join Meet Ups
There are tons of groups on Meetup.com with a wide variety of hobbies and interests. When I first moved to Orange County I found groups such as new girls in OC and writing groups that were beyond welcoming.

4. Play intramural sports
I am the LEAST athletic person in the world but I noticed that a lot of people in their twenties were OBSESSED with a local organization called Beach City Sports. One day, I decided to bite the bullet and sign up for flag football. Was I good at it? Hell no. But did I make new friends? Absolutely. Get out of your comfort zone!

5.  Make friends at work
I’ve never really listened to the “don’t shit where you eat” advice. It’s just not a rule I care to follow. I have made some amazing friendships in the workplace and although it has gotten me in trouble a few times, it’s worth building lasting relationships over climbing the corporate ladder. Build trust with your coworkers and you will go far.

6. Get a dog?
Ok, I am biased but you would not BELIEVE how many people I’ve met through my dog. There is actually a group of older women down the beach that I meet up with before work every day so our dogs can wear each other out.

7. Take classes
I have taken so many classes since moving to California. Metalsmithing, ceramics, painting, life coaching, writing… you name it. Find something you’re passionate about and sign up! You’ll meet other creative people who have the same interests and goals.

So get out there and build your tribe! I’ll definitely be using these tips when I embark on my next adventure… Stay tuned. 😉

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  • Jade Mils

    Great post, really interesting to read and some good points made. Especially the get a dog, although a big commitment if you have the time, everyone talks you whilst out on walks 🙂

    • Caroline

      They really do! I always say that I’m just my dog’s talent agent… Everyone is much more interested in her than me haha.

  • Ivanna

    I was just discussing this with my SIL yesterday. Making friends is hard for me I have an introvert personality but I’m trying to be more outgoing I’ll have to try a couple of these tips.

    • Caroline

      It can be intimidating at first but the more people you talk to, the more comfortable you get in those situations!

  • Lauren

    These are excellent tips on how to meet people when moving into a new area! Great list!

    • Caroline

      Thank you Lauren!

  • Michelle Anneliese

    Meetups are my favorite way. Or any group activities where you meet up with the same people every so often.

    • Caroline

      Yes! They are a great way to meet amazing people. 🙂

  • Dody

    I agree on all counts especially no. 6. 🙂 Seriously, If I had known these things when I migrated, my adjustment shouldn’t have taken so long. Well done!

  • Allison at Brainy Business Babe

    Great tips! I second getting a dog 🙂

    • Caroline

      Best decision I ever made!

  • mei

    I’m glad to hear you are having fun. I am moving to Milwaukee, Wisconsin. My plan originally was chicago, but it just didnt work out. I will definitely use this apps. Looks like you made many beautiful friends too. 🙂

    • Caroline

      Congratulations!! I’m sure you will make friends in no time. 🙂

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